Friday, October 5, 2012

Just When You Think Life is Settled...

Your husband takes a new job.

In another state.

Hello, Arkansas?
Goodbye Southern Comfort!
That's right, I'll be moving in about three weeks. It's an exciting adventure, but we've lived here longer than anywhere else. And we thought we'd live in North Carolina forever. We put down some deep roots and it's painful digging them up. Our kids have moved, but they don't remember how quickly you can make new friends. The tears have slowed to a trickle and just at night when they think we won't notice.

And then there's all the work to do. Some of you might be able to sympathize with my plight. I have three weeks in which to get my home of 6 years prepped to put on the market to sell. That's 6 years with 4 kids. Let your imagination run wild!
A year after moving to NC


I started prepping walls for paint this week and actually got one bathroom scrubbed and painted. Home Depot came out to measure for new carpet, and we're having a yard sale tomorrow to get rid of as much junk as possible.

The grass seed has started to grow and fill in where the trampoline sat for four years.

Dang, I'm crying again.

I've never loved a house and neighborhood so much. We've had wonderful neighbors allowing our kids to run wild over the whole cul de sac with everyone else's kids. Our church community/life has been full and fulfilling (not always the same thing). And I can drive anywhere I want without getting lost.

All in all I can sum it up this way. The gypsy part of my heart is thrilled at starting a new adventure, but the rest his shattered. It's a good thing hearts heal with time.

23 comments:

  1. Oh, wow, you hit it spot on. The thrill of moving is cool, but the leaving friends and familiarity behind...not so much. And then there is the packing. I hate it!

    By the way, new follower. See ya around!

    Cheers.

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    1. Hey Jeremy, welcome! Yes, I already dread the packing but perhaps for a different reason. The company will do all that and as a control freak it drives me nuts. I think I'm a bit OCD--everything should be packed a specific way and moving companies haven't' been taught MY way.

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  2. I'm sorry! Darn, here you just told me you lived here and now you are moving to another state. Sorry you can't stay. Know it sucks, but something really great and brand new probably awaits you in Arkansas.
    And I know two other writers in Arkansas - now I'll know three!

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    1. I thought it fortunate that you asked where people were from earlier in the week on your blog. That's how I learned of one other writer out there. The move will be good, but I think I'll always be a Carolina girl at heart.

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  3. HUGS. It will be a new adventure, but it's okay to mourn the loss of NC. We will miss you!

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    1. Thanks Jen, I needed that. I'll definitely have to plan to come visit. Often. ;)

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  4. Starting over is so hard and it's natural to mourn. Wishing you good connecting times with your current support network before you move. In this wired world, it's easier than ever to stay in touch. {{HUGS}}

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    1. So true Laurel! With facebook, twitter and email we never really lose any friends. It'll just be hard to go out for lunch.

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  5. Closer. But not close enough!

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  6. Charity, that seems so sudden! Have you heard the song "Arkansas, Arkansas, I just love ol' Arkansas. I love my ma, I love my pa, but I just love ol' Arkansas."? I think it's from "Big River."
    I would have a really hard time moving. I hope you guys love it and it turns out to be a blessing.

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    1. LOL, that's the only thing I know about Arkansas. Nathan was actually in Big River in high school.

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  7. O.O... You're moving to Arkansas? Hmm. Good luck with that.

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  8. Awww I'm sorry. It will be a fun adventure and soon, you'll feel at home just like you do now. Good luck with everything and when you go, have a safe trip!

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  9. Change sucks. But just think, a year from now it'll seem like such a big fuss over nothing. Or even better, you'll be so happy in your new home that you'll be glad that you moved.

    Good luck with the move.

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    1. I know you're right and for the most part I'm starting to feel much better about it. I'm just going to pack my 2 best friends into the truck and take them with me. I'm sure their families won't notice...until dinner time at least.

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  10. Go ahead and cry. I'm sure you'll be happy in Arkansas but if you're sad to leave, you're sad. I hope all goes well :)

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    1. Awe, thanks! that's what we've been telling our kids too.

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  11. I was born and raised in Little Rock, Ar but I now call Central Texas home. However, my basic roots are in Arkansas. DL Hammond and Brook Johnson are two blogger writers I know of that live in Arkansas.

    Moving sucks, but it's a new adventure so YAY for adventures.

    And yes, the heart can heal in time.

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  12. The only move I've ever made (twice) is from Gatton to Brisbane, which are about an hour's drive apart. But there is the slight possibility that we could be moving to Florida next year. Yep, America's Florida. So I totally get what you're saying. Part of me says, Yeah let's do it, and the rest of me is saying no way, Jose!

    I hope the move goes smoothly for you, Charity. :-)

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  13. Hey, Arkansas, touches my state! I'm always quite disappointed that no other writer bloggers that I've found live in Oklahoma. At least you know of a few.

    Really, while I know it's quite hard for you, Charity, I'm more sympathetic toward your children. Some of them are about my age and I know that I would absolutely hate to move. It feels like I've been here forever, though in reality it's only been eight years, and the friends I've made throughout my life are here.

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