Monday, January 17, 2011

My Answer to Compromise

First, I want to thank everyone for their kind and thoughtful comments over the last few days in response to my post I'm a Liar/Compromise. This is what I love about this wonderful blogging community. Everyone is so supportive and we don't have to go through this journey alone. Your comments confirmed so many things that I knew I should do, but I was too tired to do. Thank you for being honest and gently pushing me back onto the path I've chosen.
I thought I would share my plan with you. Nothing like accountability to keep you on track, right? I used Charmaine Clancy's 8 Ways to Prioritize Your Writing to help with my plan.

  • I will still post on MWF, but will try and keep them short. And if I need to skip a day, I give myself permission to do that.
  • Tuesday and Thursday will be my day to read and comment on other's blogs. (Oh, and I should tell you I spent the weekend going through my list of blogs that I follow. I cut down from 243 to 104. I felt horrible at first, but in the long run I know it's for the best. I opened each blog and followed the author on twitter if available before unfollowing. Here is the criteria I used: I unfollowed if 1. nothing had been posted for two months, 2. I had no idea who the person was, 3. I couldn't find out who they were from their blog, 3. I skimmed through and found I just didn't care (for whatever reason) 4. the blog couldn't be found. I also stopped following some individual bloggers who blogged regularly on a group blog. Those usually post the same thing on both anyway.) 
  • Blogging time is from 8:30-9:30am week days.
  • 9:30-10:30am is exercise time.
  • 10:30-12:30pm is all about the 4 year old. Whatever he wants to play, I'm there.
  • After lunch is writing time. 1:00-2:30pm (No facebook during this time.)
  • Then from 2:30-5:00pm it's get the kids, snack, homework and chores. I'll do my clean the house chores while they do theirs. This includes start dinner so we can eat at 5:30ish.
  • 5:30--8:00pm Family time, drive kids wherever they need to be etc.
  • 8:00-9:00pm is the bedtime battle.
  • 9:00-10:00pm Hubby time, sorry that's all that's left. :)
  • 10pm is bed time for me because I get up at 4:40am weekdays.
  • Saturday and Sunday are Family days, but if there is down time I can sneak in some writing.
There, that is a slightly more detail oriented goal plan. There's a lot left off, such as when will I see my actual friends that live close by? But this is a start.

Ok, I don't talk a lot about my spiritual side, but I'm going to be a bit indulgent today and share some songs I've listened to at least 1000 times this past week. You know how I am with my music. Along with your support, they helped me pick myself back up.

This first one can be taken anyway you want. Whatever you believe in, live like you believe. You can even listen to it thinking "I will be published some day, so I'm going to live, work, and blog like I believe that."

Live Like You Believe--embedding disabled
"Hold on, to the yearning,
And wherever you are on your journey,
Live like you believe
Live like you know.
It's one sure way, your faith will grow.
Listen to your heart, search in your soul,
And you'll find the strength that you need."

And the theme in this song that kept sticking out was:
"I didn't come to Earth to compromise."

And because I have such respect for the youth of today and the challenges they face to live a moral life.


My profile is now up on Mormon.org. You can see it Here.

11 comments:

  1. This is a great plan and should work very well.

    It is always so hard to economize our time to fit everything in the day ... there only so many hours in the day. Right?

    Good luck, I hope it works for you...

    Michael

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  2. I'm glad that you were able to find a solution! I hope it works for you.

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  3. Great compromise! Sounds like you hit on a very workable plan. Maybe I'll follow your lead and get better organized myself. Thanks for the inspiration!

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  4. There you go! That sounds like a good plan.
    I rarely unfollow people, but I've divided my followers into different folders in Google Reader - and a select group fills the 'daily' folder.

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  5. This is a good, workable solution. I hope it works out.

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  6. I like your plan, Charity, and think it will work. I read it after I just commented on your liar/compromise post.

    Big hug,

    Jai

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  7. I am glad you are on a track that will work for you and your family. So glad we won't be missing you here either!

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  8. Wow! Plan sounds great!! (I don't think I got unfollowed!...*runs to check* HAZZAH!!! ;)
    I'm so pleased you have it all figured out now. A plan is a perfect place to start! Keep us posted on how it works.

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  9. Your plan sounds great. I love that you will give yourself permission to skip a blogging day. Sometimes we all need a break.

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  10. Holly cow, you're organized! Good luck sticking ot the plan, and I really hope it works for you. I especially like that you're giving yourself permission to miss a day if you need to, and that you're giving yourself a time limit on the blogging. I need to do something like that, too.

    Good luck!! :)

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  11. Thanks everyone! I already feel better about the future, and my writing has picked up again by letting all the extra go.

    You'll even get to read some of it tomorrow!

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